On The Path of Transformation; Walking with Your Healer’s Shadow


I know this year hasn’t really been the “best yet”, especially in my case. Especially considering in the past few years I have realized I have become these following things;

  • A workaholic 
  • Realizing my real feelings towards humanity
  • A recluse
  • Denying a lot of my spiritual instincts
  • A control freak
  • A hoarder
  • Tired

When you sit back and think, you really kick yourself because of the fact that you know better than that. Of course, being human you realize that there is nothing wrong with reconizing that you have become what you are. It’s step one of realizing parts of yourself you want to heal. Which is why as a healer it’s important to realize your shadow.

I am going to admit to myself that this year alone, my shadow side has been scaring me…a lot. When you are realizing parts of yourself that you hide because you’re so used to being viewed in a certain way that you come to the point where you cage those parts of yourself. Of course, all cages have a weak point which in time your inner beast will find a way to escape. Usually they’ll escape at the worst possible moments, moments when you can end up hurting the people you love without realizing it. Worst of all, you end up hurting yourself the most.

Of course when you take the time to recognize those parts of yourself, you alone have the power to let them continue to consume you or face them head on to embrace them. Like the list I wrote above, I can change it to these following affirmations;

  • I am a hard worker with a very strong work ethic, which I will continue to do so I can provide a better future for myself and the people I love.
  • I recognize that I’m not too thrilled with most of the human race, but I will continue to love unconditionally.
  • I value my alone time and know when it’s time to withdraw and recharge.
  • I have become a lot more open to logic, which in turn helps me think rationally but I should remember to still trust my intuition.
  • The only person I control is myself and my thoughts and actions. Learn to know when it’s time to let go and move forward.
  • I channel my ability to prepare and save by putting it towards saving money for my future.
  • I need to take better care of my body and take the time to rest and listen.

It takes awhile to come and realize these changes, which is not something everyone is willing to do. Especially those who have hidden parts of themselves for so long that they feel they cannot be themselves except around certain people. My dear, when the time comes I hope you take the leap to embrace your shadow so in turn you can learn and heal from it.

Are you ready to take a walk with your dark side?

When a Rock Melts to Molten Lava

When you refer a strong person as a rock, you think of them as a main force of a foundation in which helps you with keeping yourself steady. Often times, these rocks tend to attract more rocks which further strengthens their force which in due time can build an ultimate fortress. A fortress so strong it protects the village in which inhabits behind the fortress so the can grow strong, survive and thrive.


Of course, like any good fortress, a series of outside forces wants to make an attempt to invade and destroy the peace in which it tries to bestow. Not just from other invading villages but from other forces such as weather, time, and erosion. This is why we do our best to fortify and maintain our fortresses so it can continue to do it’s job at protecting it’s village. This why we honor the warriors of our past who go beyond the fortress to fight off invading forces so they cannot reach it in the first place. Why we respect the contractors and carpenters who built the fortress in the first place and help maintain it with constant repairs, check ups, and attention. Why when in time a fortress falls, the village gathers together to fight to the death to protect what is in their village while others evacuate their young so they can further the path of the village to get a fresh start.

Of course, it should not come to that if you maintain and respect the fortress in the first place. We get so comfortable and safe at times we do not think about its maintenance that when it does fall, we tend to put the blame on the fortress for not standing rather than ourselves for keeping up with it’s maintenance. A fortress is just a fortress, it can only do so much on it’s own for so long.

That is the one thing we as humans have a terrible habit, which is keeping up with maintenance. We do it to our bodies, our relationships, our homes, our careers, almost everything. We get so caught up in comfort that we take for granted blessings we have rather than counting them so they can continue to grow. The most thankless often feel empty because they focus on what they lack rather than be thankful for what they do have. Even I am guilty of this behavior because I am someone who strives to move forward the best I can. Of course as the years go by I see so much to be thankful for. I once met a man who told me that instead of counting sheep to put him to sleep, he counted his blessings which always puts him at ease.

So know this, if someone is your rock. Love them, cherish them, maintain your relationship with them. Of course when they start to crumble, be there the best you can to support them in their times of need as much as they have been to you. Just remember, sometimes your rock may not reach out to you because they are so used to being your rock, just keep an eye on them to make sure they’re ok.